About Eva

Eva Mendes, LMHC, NCC, is a nationally recognized expert in working with neurodiverse couples—where one or both partners are on the autism spectrum (diagnosed or self-identified). A trailblazer in the field, Eva has spent over a decade supporting autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD adults, couples, and families, offering practical and compassionate guidance rooted in both clinical expertise and lived experience. Diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood herself, Eva brings an unmatched level of empathy, insight, and cultural sensitivity to her work with twice-exceptional individuals, women, and people from diverse backgrounds.

A Leader in Empowering Neurodiverse Individuals and Couples

Eva Mendes, LMHC, NCC, is a nationally recognized expert in working with neurodiverse couples—where one or both partners are on the autism spectrum (diagnosed, undetermined or self-identified).

A trailblazer in the field, Eva has spent over a decade supporting autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD adults, couples, and families, offering practical and compassionate guidance rooted in both clinical expertise and lived experience. Diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood herself, Eva brings an unmatched level of empathy, insight, and cultural sensitivity to her work with twice-exceptional individuals, women, and people from diverse backgrounds.

Core Areas of Specialization

Credentials & Experience

Author of three acclaimed books

  • Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger Syndrome: Successful Strategies for Couples or Counselors – a 5-star rated resource for neurodiverse couples and professionals.
  • Gender Identity, Sexuality and Autism: Voices from Across the Spectrum – awarded the prestigious APA Division 44 Book Award for its groundbreaking contribution to LGBTQ+ and neurodiversity-informed care.
  • Armchair Conversations on Love and Autism – a warm, insightful collection of reflections on intimacy and identity in neurodiverse relationships.

Therapy, Evaluations & Coaching

A Neurodiversity-Affirming, Whole-Life Approach

Eva helps individuals, couples, and families gain clarity, reduce shame, and shift entrenched patterns using a neurodiversity-affirming, whole-life approach. She combines validation with practical tools for emotional regulation, executive functioning, communication, and intimacy. Many clients return during key life transitions.

A Legacy of Advocacy and Thought Leadership

From the start of her career, Eva has championed the voices of neurodiverse individuals and couples. Her widely shared article, ‘Asperger Marriage: 14 Practical Strategies,’ led to several influential books, including the 5-star rated Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger’s Syndrome and the award-winning Gender Identity, Sexuality and Autism. Her latest, Armchair Conversations on Love and Autism, continues to offer honest, compassionate insight into neurodiverse relationships.

A Transformative, Individualized Approach

Clients often describe working with Eva as transformative. With a creative, affirming, and solution-focused style, she tailors each session to the client’s unique goals and neurology. Drawing on evidence-based practices like CBT, Positive Psychology, and mindfulness, Eva helps clients break long-standing patterns, improve communication, and build authentic, lasting connections.

Diagnostic Expertise and Long-Term Support

Eva specializes in comprehensive evaluations for late-diagnosed adults exploring autism, ADHD, or AuDHD, with a focus on women and those with intersectional identities. Her assessments go beyond diagnosis, offering a compassionate roadmap for healing, growth, and self-understanding.

Collaborative and Integrated Care

When needed, Eva works closely with other professionals—including psychiatrists, executive functioning coaches, and trauma therapists—to ensure integrated and holistic care. Her practice centers around a simple but powerful mission: to help people feel seen, understood, and empowered.

Take the Next Step

If you’re ready to create meaningful change, discover your strengths, and build a relationship that works for your unique neurodiverse dynamic, Eva invites you to take the next step.

Distinguished Book Award

I’m so happy to announce that Dr. Maroney, my coauthor and I have won the prestigious American Psychological Association Division 44 Award for our book “Gender Identity, Sexuality and Autism: Voices from Across the Spectrum”

Gender Identity, Sexuality, and Autism

Bringing together a collection of narratives from those who are on the autism spectrum whilst also identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex and/or asexual (LGBTQIA), this book explores the intersection of the two spectrums as well as the diverse experiences that come with it.

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