A Leader in Counseling Neurodiverse Couples and Individuals
Eva Mendes, LMHC, NCC, is a nationally recognized expert in working with neurodiverse couples—where one or both partners are on the autism spectrum (diagnosed, undetermined or self-identified). A trailblazer in the field, Eva has spent over a decade supporting autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD adults, couples, and families, offering practical and compassionate guidance rooted in both clinical expertise and lived experience. Diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood herself, Eva brings an unmatched level of empathy, insight, and cultural sensitivity to her work with twice-exceptional individuals, women, and people from diverse backgrounds.
A Neurodiversity-Affirming, Whole-Life Approach
Eva is known for helping individuals, couples and families find clarity, reduce shame, and transform entrenched relational patterns. She uses a neurodiversity-affirming, whole-life approach to diagnosis and care.
Eva provides both validation and practical tools that support emotional regulation, executive functioning, communication, and intimacy. Many clients choose to continue working with Eva after their initial work together, often returning during key life transitions.
A Legacy of Advocacy and Thought Leadership
From the very beginning of her career, Eva has been committed to elevating the voices and experiences of neurodiverse individuals and couples. Her pioneering article “Asperger Marriage: 14 Practical Strategies” became a widely circulated resource among professionals and families alike. She went on to author the 5-star rated book Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger’s Syndrome, followed by Gender Identity, Sexuality and Autism: Voices from Across the Spectrum, which was awarded the prestigious APA Division 44 Book Award for its groundbreaking contribution to the field of LGBTQ+ and neurodiversity-informed care. Her most recent book, Armchair Conversations on Love and Autism, continues this legacy—offering honest, compassionate insight into what it means to love and connect in neurodiverse relationships.
A Transformative, Individualized Approach
Clients who work with Eva often describe the experience as transformative. Known for her creative, affirming, and solution-focused approach, Eva tailors each session to the client’s unique goals, neurology, and strengths. She draws from evidence-based modalities—including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Positive Psychology, Solution-Focused Therapy, and mindfulness practices—while maintaining a strong emphasis on relational and emotional intelligence. Her approach is both practical and deeply attuned, empowering clients to break long-standing patterns, strengthen communication, and build authentic, sustainable connection.
Diagnostic Expertise and Long-Term Support
Eva’s work continues to respond to the real needs of her clients, many of whom are late-diagnosed or previously overlooked. She is widely known for her comprehensive evaluations for adults exploring autism, ADHD, or AuDHD. Her diagnostic tools are tailored especially for adult women and those with intersectional identities.
These evaluations go beyond a diagnosis. They provide a meaningful roadmap for healing, growth, and self-acceptance. Clients walk away with clear answers and a compassionate framework to navigate their next steps.
Collaborative and Integrated Care
When needed, Eva works closely with other professionals—including psychiatrists, executive functioning coaches, and trauma therapists—to ensure integrated and holistic care. Her practice centers around a simple but powerful mission: to help people feel seen, understood, and empowered.
Take the Next Step
If you’re ready to create meaningful change, discover your strengths, and build a relationship that works for your unique neurodiverse dynamic, Eva invites you to take the next step.
